Real Self-Care — The Four Principles

The four principles

Boundaries

An internal decision, not a rule

Compassion

Self-compassion over self-criticism

Values

Eudaimonic wellbeing, not escape

Power

Individual practice, collective change


The core distinction

Fake self-care

Soothes symptoms. Doesn't change what caused them.

Real self-care

Changes the conditions that exhaust you.

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